Overcoming Fears

How do you overcome a fear that is so intense that you feel it to your core?


I am going to share how I have slowly tried to overcome my fear of heights and hopefully, some of the things that worked for me will maybe work for you.

Some people say to show fear shows that you are weak. I think that is a harmful saying. A fear isn't always something you can control, but you can try to overcome it.

My fear of heights has been overwhelming in the past but there are things in my life I would like to accomplish so I need to work towards conquering it.

1. Identify the fear and where it stems from
Knowing the reason you have said fear will help you to examine why it has such a hold on you.

2. Come to terms with what gave you the fear
If you have identified that a fear stems from a traumatic incident in your past then really getting to the core of that and moving past it will give you the courage to try and let go of said fear.

3. Starting slow
I will use heights as an example. You shouldn't rush out and climb the biggest hill and look over the edge but maybe just find some stairs that seem more than you would usually climb and go as far as you can.

4. Set a GOAL
Goals are wonderful to have when working out a fear. It gives you perspective and accountability.
That goal doesn't have to be the top dog at first. Set little ones working up to what it is you really want. Remember that "Rome wasn't built in a day"

5. Continue to grow
As you set out to conquer your goals. Always take the time to look back at how you let go of the reason you had that fear. Be proud of yourself for how far you have come. Share with people and let them be supportive.

Having a positive attitude always helps to conquer fears. Once you get to that big goal you set for yourself you may have to pep talk your way through it and it is nice to have a support team also.

Once you have accomplished that goal, keep going! That fear may always be a small voice in the back of your mind but if you don't let it stop you then it won't win.



*What fear have you overcome? How did you accomplish it?

Are Abs really made in the kitchen?

If you are anything like me, you workout till the cows come home but the stomach area does not budge.

The plan is to figure out why that is and how to correct it. I created a Pinterest board to help me get some pointers together and also a way to share with others who have the same problem. 

WHAT OTHERS SAY

Jen @thefithousewife.com talks about the same topic in this post. She has had 3 kids and shares how she was able to see her abs again. Clean eating is the way she suggests to go.

Keith @fitmole.org has a different opinion than Jen as you will see in this post. He feels that it is all about doing the right workouts to build those muscles.

Charlene Johnson shared this post about the 80/20 rule. She supports that abs are made in the kitchen. She recommends a way to track that you are not taking in more than you are burning.

DOES THIS MAKE SENSE?

This is where I am torn. I have done the clean eating and have had no change in my midsection. I also have been working out consistently for months and still look the same in the stomach. So where do we go from here?

Well, like Antranick says in his post, we be patient!! This weight didn't get put on overnight so why would it come off that fast.

PLAN OF ATTACK 

1. Install MyFitnessPal app to keep track of the calories going in.

2. Use Garmin/Fitbit to track calories burned.

3. No processed food.

4. Plenty of water/ no pop!

5. Continue workouts but don't stress if they don't work overnight.

* Do you have any suggestions or favorite trick to a six-pack?

AB Challenge

Here we go again! I have created a two week AB challenge on my facebook group and I know that without some healthy eating this is not going to be a magic make over but It will help a little and it will at least get you into the habit of working your abdominal area.

Go to facebook.com/lmlittelldsm and ask to be added to the group if you would like to make friends and join the challenge. Also here it is for you to print off without having to join the facebook group.

2 leg moves for strong truncks

They are everywhere these days. Those big glutes and strong legs are splashed all over social media. Are you proud of the work you do on your legs or do you need some guidance? 

There are many great moves that you can do to get your "trunks" in strong shape. I am going to touch on 2 of them. These should be staples in your routine.

1. Squats!

I touched on what squats are good for in my blog post "Squats, what are they good for" but I want to have this move out front and center because it is a multi-dimensional move. There are so many ways to incorporate a squat into your leg day routine.

Front squat, Knee squat, Sitting squat, One-legged squat.....I could go on but I think you get the point. Squats can be done with heavy weight or with no weight.

What does the squat help? Well other than working all the muscle groups in your legs they help build your core and improve balance. You should be doing some form of squats twice a week.

2. Deadlifts

Now some people may think that deadlifts are just for power lifters or professional body builders...but you would be wrong. Anyone can do deadlifts and you do not need a barbell, you can use dumbbells or kettlebells, whatever you have available. 

There is also a few varieties of deadlift. You can do sumo, Romanian, stiff leg. Find what works best for you.

Those are the two staple moves that I think should be included in every leg day!! 

If you have some other suggestions please feel free to share.

Go for NO review

Ok, so I have started in the company Beachbody as a coach and they are really big on personal development and I need all the help I can get so I have stocked up on books and want to share some things that I learned.

The premise of this book is that a man gets a chance to meet his future self. That future self is very successful salesperson who is going to show him what his life could be if he made some changes.

The book is only 74 pages so there is no reason to not get this book finished in a day if not then two. 



Who is this book for?

This book is not just for salespeople. You do not have to be a door to door salesman to want to read this book. This book is for anyone who has a message to share with the world. You could be in telemarketing, online sales or work in a department store. You could be in charge of a charity or run a gym. This book is for anyone!!



What would you do if you hit your head and got a chance to meet your future self? Would you fight the whole experience, thinking that it was just a dream or would you embrace the experience and soak up all the information you can?

That is what the main character does. He watches and listens to his future self in hopes of taking this information back with him when he comes too. He knows that he wants to one day be this person.

Are you willing to be told No over and over again? Are you willing to put yourself out there wholeheartedly and basically sell yourself and have someone say No to you. When I say selling yourself, that is what being a salesperson is to me. I feel like I have to truly think the product is worth putting myself on the line and want everyone else to feel the love for a product like I do.

That is the point that this future self says. No is the way to get to the Yes! If you don't like being told No and you take it personally than putting yourself out there in whatever capacity that you are in, then you may be facing failure.


Should you read this book?

Yes, you should read this book and then share it! If you are in a position of authority of any kind then share this book with people under you or above you for that matter.